Thursday, December 31, 2015

I Am More Than My Breasts

As I sat in the middle of a busy tattoo parlour clenching my fists to conceal the undeniable pain I was in, I felt at peace with the needles rhythmically piercing my back.
“What does this mean?,” asked my curious tattoo artist who was busy working on two wings on my shoulder blades and the words Still I Rise at the centre of my spine.
“It’s a poem,” I responded, “my favourite one actually.”
You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.
(full poem can be found at: https://www.poets.org/poetsorg/poem/still-i-rise)
No piece of art had ever given me such a sense of strength and confidence in the person I was.
By the time I was in my early teenage years, I had grown accustomed to a certain amount of attention. Whether it was thanks to the family I was in, or whether it was just because of “the way I am.” Ever since I was a child, I have been allowed to make my own choices, responsibly. I was never policed when it came to how I should dress or behave. All that was expected out of me was that I was to be a good human being. I was told I was free to do as I pleased as long as I was safe, happy, and respectful and kind to those around me. And I was.
When you get attention, you get a good amount of hate, coupled with a good amount of love. It balances it out, and more often than not, the love outweighs the hate and produces a very positive canvas for me to paint my life on. I never objected or shied away from the attention I got, and I continued to stay true to myself. As my social media reach grew, I began noticing fights breaking out on my instagram photos. Within the comments, were people that had commented things like “Mahn, u r so hot I wana fuk u so hard,” or “ur titties look so suckable” or even random comments like “boobs.” Just “boobs.” Of course, i’d have people commenting back and taking up for me fiercely, and I made it a point to thank them and block anyone that spread any kind of negativity. I always ignored it and moved on.
Recently however, I came across a very nice post by Miss Malini that featured me. Everything within the post was very respectful and well said. And the caption to it on facebook said “Hi Bollywood... are you looking at this?” (can be seen at https://goo.gl/hY7QJy ) When I read the comments, my smile faded away. All anyone spoke about was how I was barely wearing any clothes, how I was just another “randi,” that “taking my clothes off” just made me an unworthy slut. That I was “porn ready,” not “bollywood ready” and of course the perennial “Indian girls like this are ruining our culture.”
I took a deep breath and went back to doing what I was doing. My plan was to ignore it like I ignored everything else that brought even an ounce of negativity into my life. But this annoyed me and refused to budge from the back of my mind.
If my cleavage is visible, it does not mean I am giving consent, it does not mean I am “asking for it.” I am more than my breasts and it is unfair to let them define me. I am an eighteen year old Indian girl and that does not take away the fact that I am allowed to dress the way I please. I wouldn’t judge or disrespect a woman in a burkha, salwaar kameez or sari, and I deserve the same respect back. I am not my breasts and it is unfair to sexualise me and base my morals, my achievements and my goals and ambitions on my breasts. I am not my breasts. If my top is a little low, it does not mean I am a “randi.” If I choose to wear a bikini, it is my choice and it is about time we grow up and let individuals be their own people without fearing what society will say.
My breasts do not take away from all the social service I have done, my breasts do not take away my numerous academic and extracurricular accomplishments and awards, my breasts do not take away my strong academic position. My breasts do not take away the fact that I am I have gotten into and am currently studying Film and Television at New York University; one of the top institutions in the world. My breasts did not get me in and my breasts cannot take away the fact that I am a good human being and that I deserve basic human respect.
What are we as women if we can’t empower each other? If we, as women are going to turn around and pass judgement on another individual’s life choices, we are allowing the sexualization of women. When you walk down the street and have men mentally undressing you and harassing you, you enabled that. You are unintentionally telling your sons, brothers and husbands that a woman’s breasts define her. You are teaching your daughters that they are just as worthy as the amount of clothes they have on their body. We are more and we deserve more. I am more and I deserve more. As a man, when your wife is scared to walk down the road at night, or you’re hesitant to let your daughters or sisters go somewhere alone, you perpetuated that. You allowed that to happen. When you curse at men for unforgivable crimes like rape, you have contributed to a mindset that makes it morally ambiguous.
Yes, the fact that I look half decent and have breasts does not mean that I am necessarily “Bollywood ready,” but it doesn’t mean I am not. It’s a strange world we live in where wearing a bikini is more frowned upon than being hateful and tearing another individual down. It is not okay to hate. You are allowed to have your opinion, you are allowed to have your values and beliefs, I respect your choices and who you are. I deserve the same.
I will be fine, I will move on. I will continue to do good and make those around me happy and I will continue to dress the way I please and post the kind of photos I post. I will continue to live my life the way I do because I know when I go to bed at night, I am a good person. I will rise.

156 comments:

  1. Oh My God ! Aalia
    I Support You
    And stand for you...
    It's good that you wrote this Blog
    You are a brave girl
    And YOU WILL RISE!!

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  2. This is the most beautiful thing I've read in a while.

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    1. Yeah its more beautiful than nature, life, yada yada yada, (slowly claps and walks away)

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  3. This is extremely good, like the Best.Hopefully this will change mindset of some people.

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  4. This is extremely good, like the Best.Hopefully this will change mindset of some people.

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    1. "Extremely good" means that this piece is being compared to something, care to explain how one post on blogspot is going to change the mindset of "some people"

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  5. I agree with everything written up there, but we also need to remember that a girl can dress the way she wants even is she doesn't have any other accomplishments academically or personally. Yes aalia is an amazingly talented human and she has the right to live her life the way she wants, but even if any other person who isn't as talented or doesn't have any accomplishments at all also has the right to live the way they want to.

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    1. Well she wanted attention and voila she got it...

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  6. I support u Aaliya... vry nyc! Keep it up!! 👍👍👍

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  7. Twas Great!I'm really happy that you speak for basic things which are missing in India I could say...you are an inspiration to many:)I love you Just Stay Strong..and carry on with your attitude when it comes to things like such!And You Will Rise!

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  8. Don't let them put you down. There are hundreds you have given strength to, they are just to shy to admit. Stay strong❤️.

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  9. Fantastic Aalia! We support you and stand for you in every possible way. You're a brave girl with a clean and a honest heart. You've the potential to rise up and you'll do that very soon and shut those dirty mouths. You're an inspiration to the young girls and also the girls who've gone through sexual harassment. I appreciate your attitude!

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  10. I wish the mentality of the people changes. The society's mindset is like unbelievable. Few days back my sis ws wearing a short dress and had her hairs coloured. My parents didn't had any problem with it but just because the people were talking about her that she doesnot belong to a good family n all my parents started saying her not to wear such clothes. That made me so fucking angry. Society see's the clevage and other parts which are getting exposed but they are never told anything by other people around them instead the girls are told not to wear such clothes. I am so proud that girls like you who fight back so bravely still exist. I wish all the girls become like this and start answering to the society and change their mindsets.

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  11. I am glad that someone is talking sense! And the comments on "bollywood ready" are just full if hatred! Well, chill aalia your happiness is what matters to you! :)

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  12. It's really nice that you brought this thing up.
    We're in the 21st century.
    We live in a country where criminals are allowed to roam free but a rape victim has to face all the ill's of the society.
    Why and how long?
    It's almost 2016 in a day.
    We need to bring the change.
    I'm really saddened that such posts will only be taken positively by few people other's will only think of it for a while.
    I hope with new year coming up in 8 hour's india see's something new some change

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  13. Once they stop talking to you, they start talking about you.
    You can't change the ridiculous INDIAN mentality.
    Kudos..!!

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  14. Well all I Have to say that certain people in our country r sick minded who only judge the person with wat dey are wearing..You are beautiful and you are certainly Bollywood ready.
    But this is disgraceful in d way a beautiful and sexy lady is being questioned like this.
    Really shameful how some people still look at a girl as a piece of sex object only..I think u really look stunning nd hottt in that and I am simply love the way you are..
    Keep Rocking keep shining

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  15. Well all I Have to say that certain people in our country r sick minded who only judge the person with wat dey are wearing..You are beautiful and you are certainly Bollywood ready.
    But this is disgraceful in d way a beautiful and sexy lady is being questioned like this.
    Really shameful how some people still look at a girl as a piece of sex object only..I think u really look stunning nd hottt in that and I am simply love the way you are..
    Keep Rocking keep shining

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  16. This was so good.I truly admire you and your spirit.
    the type of clothes we wear,the amount of skin we cover doesn't define us.the people who think that wearing certain type of clothing defines an individual personality shame on them.but as you said we will rise.love you xoxo

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  17. This was so good.I truly admire you and your spirit.
    the type of clothes we wear,the amount of skin we cover doesn't define us.the people who think that wearing certain type of clothing defines an individual personality shame on them.but as you said we will rise.love you xoxo

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  18. Fantastic writ up. I am expecting that you will be actress like your mom but you r a good writer too. Keep it up dear.
    - Harsh

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  19. haters will hate you but u got to go and make your place in this world . keep it up and be as you are . more poer to you Gurl
    as it is said.... when they speak behind your back means you are on the right track ....
    so be on the track on which you are ...

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  21. This song for you
    You can rise..

    You can stand beside the madness like a falling tear
    You can hold onto the sadness like a souvenir
    Or you can close your eyes and see your life
    Like the air

    You can tap into the strength you never knew you had
    You can breathe into your faith no matter where you’re at
    Just close your eyes and change your life
    Like the air

    Like the air you can
    Rise from the rubble with your mind, you can hover
    You can rise like the tide, like the heat in the summer
    Yes, I know there are those who will wanna bring you down
    But you can rise with your mind and make your higher power proud
    You can rise
    Like the air you can rise

    The earth can pull you down with all its gravity
    And the measure of your worth is sometimes hard to see
    So just hold on, when the night is done
    Like the sun

    Like the air you can
    Rise from the rubble with your mind, you can hover
    You can rise like the tide, like the heat in the summer
    Yes, I know there are those who will wanna bring you down
    But you can rise with your mind and make your higher power proud
    You can rise
    Like the air you can
    Rise

    So even when your bones feel like weights
    And it’s hard to lift the smile on your perfect face
    You can still find a peaceful place
    Close your eyes until you're floating up in outer space
    It’ll be alright, they’re just jealous of your highs
    So they can knock you down, but

    Like the air you can
    Rise from the rubble with your mind, you can hover
    You can rise like the tide, like the heat in the summer
    Yes, I know there are those who will wanna bring you down
    But you can rise with your mind and make your higher power proud
    You can rise

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  22. It's you alia..who become a " voice" for those who faced such in their life and felt suffocated..!
    Few months ago u arranged a " fan meet up". When I first heard all that.. I was like it's celeb thing..celb child...
    But today I got to know the thing it's worth being fan of yours..!!!
    U impact so hard today...
    So it's lifetime fan ship n supporter of your from today onward...!!! Stay blessed girl.

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  23. You are an inspiration Aalia. You put every girls thoughts in here. Kudos love for standing up for all of us 😊

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  24. You are an inspiration Aalia. You put every girls thoughts in here. Kudos love for standing up for all of us 😊

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  25. I'm so glad people like you exist.

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  26. This is the most eye opening thing I've read in a longggg time . Every single word . And of course the thought and the situation behind it . I'm glad you wrote your thought out. #you'regoals

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  27. This is wonderful!!!! Really!! Well written Aalia. ..!! U go girl! We support u! Whatever u have written s soo soo true

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  28. Beautiful person. Just keep on rising and let no one dim the light you have in your self. Have a happy new year.

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  29. This is really well-written! I honestly believe that self-respect is what matters the most, more than our clothes. You've put these thoughts out so well!

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  30. I respect you and always have. Keep rising.

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  31. Nice article I can totally rel8
    People must introspect rather than judge others on their morality or satorial choices infact thy must b doing smthing worse
    If ppl dnt tel men how 2 dress up thn y women

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  32. This is amazing and I respect you alot��

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  33. I literally agree with u Alia because this happened to me as well people judge me in wht I wear especially when I go back to India it's just not fair, But anyways I appreciate wht u said.

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  34. U spoke what every girl in this country wants to 😙 perff 😙

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  35. I'm speechless. I'm literally deleting my typed words and then typibg again , you're an inspiration. So strong headed, beautiful. Beauty with brains I must say. So what if you're hot too? Bonus. Let them hate, you're awesome.

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  36. I'm speechless. I'm literally deleting my typed words and then typibg again , you're an inspiration. So strong headed, beautiful. Beauty with brains I must say. So what if you're hot too? Bonus. Let them hate, you're awesome.

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  37. I don't know much about you.. But you kinda made my day! You gave me something to hold onto! There's not a better way to start a New Year than to believe in yourself a little more! Good luck girl :) #GirlLove

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  38. I don't know much about you.. But you kinda made my day! You gave me something to hold onto! There's not a better way to start a New Year than to believe in yourself a little more! Good luck girl :) #GirlLove

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  39. I feel you Aalia. I pledge my support. Proud of you

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  40. Oh Aalia, You are such a beautiful person, your words are so truthful, and your personality- an inspiration.

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  41. Fucking amazing lines..I feel soo inspired..thank you for writing something which amazes hundreds..God bless you!!

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  42. Fucking amazing lines..I feel soo inspired..thank you for writing something which amazes hundreds..God bless you!!

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  43. Everyone should read it and should learn something from this.

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  45. This is so True I am glad you have spoken about this. This is something which every girl (Teenage) would like to say to Today's Generation. Thank you for saying this . 😊❤

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  46. Dear aalia, do whatever you wish to, its your life, if your top is a little low , big deal
    Its just about are you comfortable? Yes then let the world say anything you just do whatever you wish to, its beautiful that how you are dealing with it, (you are dealing it like a lady) i am as old as you are i can really understand how all these things are
    But lady you are just doing right, keep up the good work and like air you will rise ���������� take care may god bless u

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  47. Thank you very very much miss aliya to take a step to remove bad mentality of peoples minds and give a diffrent direction of thoughts

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  48. Simply amazing girl.. I just don't know what to say.. I really really liked it.. Respect 👍

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  49. I m totally spellbounded by you right now... One word #respect.

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  51. Aalia I have been loving you for your honesty and your boldness. Keep going I wish these people change their mentality at some point of their lives but as of now you don't give a fuck to them and keep doing what you are doing.

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  52. Alia you are already perfect. Let them speak bullshit.

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  53. Alia you are already perfect. Let them speak bullshit.

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  54. One of the best article written describing Freedom and Respect

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  55. Good.........
    Peoples r old minded yaar good
    Keep it up......

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  56. Good.........
    Peoples r old minded yaar good
    Keep it up......

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  57. Respect & Gratitude are the words define you. You are good human being! And don't even give af....about what others say

    You Rock Dear :)

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  58. Lately I've been adoring you for your posts on Instagram when I came across this. I respect a girl like you who took a stand. Well every other person tags themselves with quotes such as "Live, and let live" but no one really puts in a thought to this. I don't find anything offensive or hurtful in your page. I like you brave girl and look forward to your posts. I agree with your opinion and there are more such good people who appreciate you, ignore the negativity around you for love wins and you will rise!

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  59. Great job Aalia! By writing this article, you have not only stood for yourself but also for numerous other women/ girls who get targeted just because they follow their heart and live the way they want to live!
    God bless!

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  61. Nailed it. More power to you girl.

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  62. पूरा परिवार की औरत ही एक जैसी हैकुछ कहने मे फायदा ना हैं
    जिसे दिखाने न दिखाने को लेकर सरकारी तंत्र
    में महीनों विचार होता रहा है। उनकी नानी
    प्रोतिमा बेदी एक दफा एक शर्त पूरी करने के
    लिए एक बीच पर न्यूड होकर दौड़ लगा दी थी।
    :-) 11/21
    देखो अमर उजाला की
    वेबसाइट पर
    http://m.amarujala.com/photo-gallery/multiplex/entertainment-photo-gallery/pooja-bedi-daughter-aalia-ebrahim-turns-18/?page=10

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  63. This is so beautiful. Aalia, there are a few people who can write the truth so blatantly and I'm really happy that you voiced your opinion. There are a lot of people here who will unnecessarily criticize you at everything that you do. They've got a lot of free time, I guess. But do not let these people get to you. Do what you love and let these losers who criticize you get a life. Keep on shining.

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  64. This post is so good! People are still gonna hate on you after this post but don't let it get to you. There are a few people who's brain size is that of a bean and the way they accept things are through closed door. Keep your head high and feet grounded you pretty, beautiful girl.

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  65. This post is so good! People are still gonna hate on you after this post but don't let it get to you. There are a few people who's brain size is that of a bean and the way they accept things are through closed door. Keep your head high and feet grounded you pretty, beautiful girl.

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  66. please guys see this video and see what type of problem or fear girl has to face in her life
    just respect women ,because it can happen with anyone ,it can be your sister also
    so we all should start respecting women
    (http://youtu.be/dP7OXDWof30)

    and hats off to you alia

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  67. Amazing, you just voiced out what is in my mind since a long time. Respect.

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  68. Nice...one girl changed my perception

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  69. OMG . we need more girls like you. I wish someday I meet a girl like you. I mean you are so fucking amazing, you are hot and beautiful ofcourse, you are so intelligent, strong and so open minded, and I just learned you are a damn good writer too😂. I love you girl.
    And now finally I am gonna say that I say everyday, people think its creepy to say but I'm gonna say it anyway😀. Please aalia follow back my insta @sajan194 😂. Who knows when you are in good mood and click me.

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  71. Hey little girl...little girl because I am a mother to a 17 year old very pretty girl just like you, and she likes to dress well, look good, and I encourage it. But of course being like that gets her lot of unwanted attention and unnecessary comments and unsolicited advice to me on how I should bring up "a daughter"!!! My little girl is very bright academically, she and her best friend (who is a wonderful boy and that gets us a lot of flak too) plan to go to Yale. She wants to be a Corporate lawyer. Well so I'm going to tell you exactly what I tell her and this is what my progressive mother use to tell me..."you cannot be bothered about every stray dog barking along the roadside, while you're joyfully walking along the road called life"! So there........

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  72. Hey!
    This blog specifically is so beautifully written, I can't express it in words.��
    Seriously respect for women in my eyes have gone above the sky.
    Thank you for this, I'm 17 and l required it.
    Thank you so much.
    Have a great life.

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  73. If you believe that you are right , you don't have to bother about what others say . You just have to satisfy your conscience . Nice attitude , keep it up ! . Also a nice inspirational poem to read at the start of the year . thanks !

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  74. Well written article!! Stay true stay blessed U will rise

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  75. Aaliaaaaa!! Omg! You framed all my thoughts into these beautiful words. I am a 100% sure that this has changed mindsets of many and will continue doing that!
    I am very proud of you

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  76. I'm just another girl like you. Totally relatable. Young women should be coming out like this more often! Amazing work!

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  77. I'm just another girl like you. Totally relatable. Young women should be coming out like this more often! Amazing work!

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  78. Your blog is a perfect response to all the people who relate "character" of a girl to her dress, her attitude, her social behaviour and her opinions. You perfectly define individuality. Please spread this blog/ message ... It's needed.

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  80. I am so proud of you Aalia, dont ever let other people bring you and your amazing confidence down. As you said positivity always overpowers negativity and if there are 100 people against you, then there's a 10000 of us there to support you. Keep doing what you're doing, the world will adjust.

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  82. I don believe people have time to keep writing these dumb things.

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    1. I don't believe people actually call this thing DUMB

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    2. Whoever you are gaurav, if you think this is dumb then GTFO pls we don't need any hate and your opinion

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  83. U r right alia but u shouldn't worry about it. Difference of opinion has always existed & it will do forever because that's human nature. U r young that'swhy u r being bothered by it. No matter wot v write wot v teach.. There's always b good & bad! Nice article tho

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  84. Whatever the problem is, scientific literacy is the solution.

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  85. People don't have other work than to point out others, that's the mentality of many person.

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  86. You're original, cannot be replaced
    If you only knew what the future holds Alia Rocks 👍👍👍
    After a hurricane comes a rainbow

    Maybe you're reason why all the doors are closed
    So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
    Like a lightning bolt, your heart will blow
    And when it's time, you'll know

    You just gotta ignite the light
    And let it shine
    Just own the night
    Like the Fourth of July

    Cause baby you're a firework
    Come on show 'em what you're worth
    Make 'em go "Oh, oh, oh!"
    As you shoot across the sky-y-y

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  87. Aalia Rocks 👍👍
    You're original, cannot be replaced
    If you only knew what the future holds
    After a hurricane comes a rainbow

    Maybe you're reason why all the doors are closed
    So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
    Like a lightning bolt, your heart will blow
    And when it's time, you'll know

    You just gotta ignite the light
    And let it shine
    Just own the night
    Like the Fourth of July

    Cause baby you're a firework
    Come on show 'em what you're worth
    Make 'em go "Oh, oh, oh!"
    As you shoot across the sky-y-y

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  88. I read whole post nd comments too ...srsly guyz one of the best things i have ever read in recent times.
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    This post surely written by a girl but every Man should read this....I request you all to share this
    This is genuine feeling of a girl
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    #stop Teasing , commenting. randomly on a girl....bt if u do so then u don't have any right to bark if smthing unacceptable happens with Your own Mom,Sister,Daughter or any female of your family
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    Stop it guyz.... think beyond these things.... why you disturb others life for your lust...
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    I dont think what the fuckin prblm sm1 cn have with other girl's clothes size .... B.c if you have this much lust then go home nd stare nd commenr on ur own sister ....
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    if sm1 do so ...then they have no right to protest against it...coz u d one who too soreas this mentality
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    Bloody Bustards

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  90. perfect....lesson for everyone.....

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  91. Just Because you have breasts they are putting u down no one on earth can put u down until and unless u loose hope stay yourself and BE YOU you do not have to change for anyone and u are fit for Bollywood let the haters hate u stay strong

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  92. Salute to this girl ! Everyone has a right to.wear they want and u knw what alas whatever u wear its your life your rules but uk what the real thing no.one can deny dat u r sch a good human being with a pure heart and beautiful soul and article u wrt is the best way to shutup all those evil person that is there thinking but people like.us dunt look at what u wearing u hav lot of mre to achieve beacuse u r young beautiful and a good human being😊😊😊

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  93. Also other thing who are they to tell you what to wear what not if i guess if i m nt wrong we are adults and now we have that enough maturity how.to carry our life in our way i do follow u on insta and i do look at ur each and every pic neither did i thght whats is she wearing what like really u r a bright girl and have dreams there are people in dis wrld dat reading dis article will realize what they commented bt on the other side we are ur people who love you a lot nt beacuse u r famous bt u r a pure soul even i m. 18 yrs old dis digust cmmnts ignre dem cuz there are two sides of coin hw mch people who hate you dun frgt their is double amt of people who love uh yaar ! 😄😄☺😉

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  94. Also other thing who are they to tell you what to wear what not if i guess if i m nt wrong we are adults and now we have that enough maturity how.to carry our life in our way i do follow u on insta and i do look at ur each and every pic neither did i thght whats is she wearing what like really u r a bright girl and have dreams there are people in dis wrld dat reading dis article will realize what they commented bt on the other side we are ur people who love you a lot nt beacuse u r famous bt u r a pure soul even i m. 18 yrs old dis digust cmmnts ignre dem cuz there are two sides of coin hw mch people who hate you dun frgt their is double amt of people who love uh yaar ! 😄😄☺😉

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  95. hey aalia, i normally do not enagage in social media comments, but i would love to compliment the article you have written. It's a lovely piece of article, i read it twice ! However what i have observed is that most women call each other sluts and whores, thus men feel it is ok to call women such names if they do not follow the social conduct, patriarchy would have never existed had women not been involved in it ! Thats a sad reality and these women do not understand the pain unless it comes on them ! These people form the majority of India, we literally cant fight and change approx 100 crore of them ! It's best to ignore and shine on !

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  96. hey aalia, i normally do not enagage in social media comments, but i would love to compliment the article you have written. It's a lovely piece of article, i read it twice ! However what i have observed is that most women call each other sluts and whores, thus men feel it is ok to call women such names if they do not follow the social conduct, patriarchy would have never existed had women not been involved in it ! Thats a sad reality and these women do not understand the pain unless it comes on them ! These people form the majority of India, we literally cant fight and change approx 100 crore of them ! It's best to ignore and shine on !

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  97. awesome. i loved the post. the best anyone could read.

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  98. Well said...evry woman needs to be respected irrespective of the clothes she wears...

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  99. This is amazing
    I think every Indian parents should read this because they are the ones who mould their child's character

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  100. I am speechless 👏🙊& Proud❤

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  101. Welly well well well...In the words of Alex delarge “A perverse nature can be stimulated by anything. Any book can be used as a pornographic instrument, even a great work of literature if the mind that so uses it is off-balance. I once found a small boy masturbating in the presence of the Victorian steel-engraving in a family Bible.” Pretty much applies to you and your kind...And for the people who are pretty much inept of comprehension, please pick up A clockwork orange, sit down in a quiet place...Clear your thoughts and shove it up you @55, cause you are fucking pathetic and live a hollow life...

    Your so called achievements are simple and easy to comprehend, you have all the wealth and power bestowed upon you. With all the power that is in your hands, your choices include snorting cocaine and partying wild every alternate day of your life...

    You as an individual disgust me, people like you are rarely in danger or rarely need to be saved...My heart goes out to the millions of women who toil in the sun every single day so that their collective voices are misconstrued by a monstrosity like you...

    If you really want to change do it by some action not some ludicrous post which the elite will read...And be warned /b is watching

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    2. guys like you are a disgrace...
      who the hell asked you to even care about random a person or what she wears...
      its her life she does what she feels is right .. if u dont like something then dont do, she never sent u a invite to her Instagram page...or asked u to look at her pictures.
      how stupid is it to judge her just looking at her pics and talking about her life .... get a life man...
      if u think a person can get into NYU by money or power and not academics ..u need to check with ur psychiatrist ..she parties and enjoys her life what burning u... she not blowing ur cash .... how hollow is your life to write all this even without knowing her
      im not a fan boy or fan girl supporting her.... just expressing my views...
      how would u react if it was a guy in his boxers.... would u even waste a second of your time writing all this crap?
      i might not have a good English proficiency like you , but happy that i have a better mindset.

      FYI the quote was by "Anthony Burgess"

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    3. I pretty much ignored your wall of text which is poorly punctuated.

      I would also take the opportunity to rephrase your last statement " The quote has been taken from A clockwork Orange written by Anthony Burgess, this was later adapted into a motion picture by Stanley Kubrick" and names are never put in quotes, I have no idea what you are trying to emphasize here...

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  102. When I was reading some of the comments I saw that everyone was saying our country as en 'India' they say rapes happen here ppl here have a dirty mind here etc etc... What they do not realise is that this is not just about our country... Yes it may be more here in some cases but even in other parts of the world it existes... So this isn't something that has to be changed here it is something everyone should work on together. Aaliha I really think as more ppl are coming to know about you... This one blog you have written... Will change so much... The ppl who are getting to know you at the moment will defiantly look up to you instead of trying to put you down after reading this. It really is put together very nicely��

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  103. Superb THoughts.Felt Nice Reading it.I Support you Girlo :)

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  104. Just another wanna be brad fed by silver spoon and crying how she's been harassed on internet for showing her boobs.
    Why you take 'randi' as an offensive word?
    Being randi is shameful for you?

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  105. sweet little kid in the lap of luxury,
    neatly laid portraits of illusory,
    a little naughty and a little savory.........

    with painted wings, a desire to fly
    The pain seared but the spirits remain high
    the words, rained vitriolic,
    ........
    the little fairy stifled a groan
    a tear or two and she felt grown
    and penned her voice, in words of her own
    .........
    don't grow up too fast little one
    sit back, sip the spirit
    smile at jibes and have some fun






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    1. Bravo, the individual who delivered on a one post , has prolly ignored everything that is/has been said for the last three months. Parties maybe cause she is "Bollywood ready?"

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  106. This is so inspiring. I stand with you and I love the way you are. ❤

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  107. Very well written....articulate n hard hitting at the same time.....words directly from an 18 yr olds heart....u have an illustrious lineages and shall hopefully rise higher n higher....stay strong girl����

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  109. This is a beautiful article and everyone should read this . Kudos Aalia!! I want to especially thank you because I am going through a tough period in my life right now and after reading your article I feel so much stronger and determined to eliminate all the negativity in my life and to stand up for myself .

    " I will continue to live my life the way I do because I know when I go to bed at night, I am a good person. I will rise. "

    Words cannot express how empowered I felt when I read these lines.Thankyou so much .

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  110. A snoozefest by the top 1%.. slow clap ensues...

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  111. @Alia

    If you really want to see the other side, send me an email and how about for a change you listen to how the rest of the 99% survive. I promise, I will keep the conversation as civil as I can...

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